Friday, January 30, 2009

Violence for conflict resolution

Since the dawn of man, fighting has been a frequent method to handle conflicts between two individuals, groups of individuals, and entire nations. While watching the movie "Head of State" on TV, the two main characters, played by Bernie Mac and Chris Rock, get into an argument. Intended as a satirical spin on two brothers having an argument, Chris' character takes a cheap shot and punches his older brother, played by Bernie Mac. Bernie's character then procedes to teach his younger brother a lesson about debating while the two of them trade blows.

Often, when two people have a disagreement, the natural reaction is to become defensive or offensive verbally. This can then escalate to a physical confrontation between the two if allowed to get out of control. This physical act of conflict resolution is a masculine quality because it is predominant among the male gender. One could reason that this type of behavior stems back to a more primal instinct to be dominant. Fighting to resolve conflict is just that, establishing dominance to force the less dominant to accept your point of view.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Everybody Loves Raymond's masculine conflict against a feminine invasion

Everybody Loves Raymond is a TV show about everyday conflicts that can arise between a man and woman within a marriage. In this particular episode, Ray's wife, Debra, makes a gesture that Ray interprets as an invasion of her space. These two have been married for a long time and, as a result, a great deal of their communication is non-verbal. In a "knee-jerk" reaction to Debra's gesture, Ray decides to suggest that the bathroom become solely hers. Debra, seeing this as an opportunity to have a space completely hers, seizes the bathroom and immediately feminizes it with very feminine decorations. Feeling his manhood being challenged, Ray decides to claim a spot in the house to make his own territory--the basement.
In this episode, one can see a masculine approach to this situation where the male feels his territory is being challenged and is driven to establish his own space. Often, males are very territorial, which I believe to be a masculine quality. From the beginning of time, men have sought dominion over territory. So, when a man feels that his territory is being threatened, his pride is actually what is being threatened. From my experience and inferences, men often feel that the whole house is taken over by the woman, the wife. So, when Debra claimed the bathroom as well, Ray felt compelled to establish his own territory.